Tools and ResourceS FOR THOSe WHO
Want to fully experience their feelings
As a global community of ONE around the world, we face many crises. We are now moving beyond the pandemic that now has a multitude of stress layers that impact our lives and others around us. We already had been dealing with the unknown of our future, job loss or instability, stress on families, kids, and relationships, and many of our beloved businesses closing. These newly seen by a larger population come from the terror of social injustice, racism, economic disparities, and gender inequalities.
What I am seeing in the world are people going through many aspects of GRIEF. Have you experienced any of these feelings below?
8 Aspects of Grieving
1) Shock or disbelief
3) Wanting to bargain yourself out of something
4) Guilt for what happened or did not happen
5) Anger (for the loss or a change that occurred)
6) Sadness or Depression
7) Acceptance- recognizing reality for what is and not needing to change it
8) Finding Meaning- Seeing the "loss" as an opportunity for growth and finding new ways to create meaning to honor the experience of tragedy.
Perhaps you see yourself or someone you know, in the middle of one of these stages of grief? We all need to be reminded that our emotions—whichever ones you are feeling—is NORMAL. I support each of you to work through each feeling state (this is a nonlinear experience). Therefore, don't "sidestep" around what you feel. This is how you will get through this. It is called grief work or doing our "shadow work" and you must go INTO it, in order to move through it.
The pandemic has given some of you a head start in finding NEW ways or practices to connect with your innate wisdom on a daily basis. You give yourself a beautiful gift by giving yourself the PRESENCE (and time) that you need to fill yourself up through these upcoming weeks. Your mental attitude is critical here.
Journaling studies have shown to help immensely with healing your mental, emotional, and spiritual trauma.
This is a CRISIS—so treat it as such. Recognize that its time to connect more with yourself than disconnect or detach at this time. Ignoring or hiding can be normal but if you can see a pattern of ignoring or bypassing than reach out to a therapist, counselor, or coach. When you can look at your feelings, experiences, and inner wounding with greater distance which is how journaling helps, than you begin the true journey of healing.
Writing and Journaling Benefits
Helps manage depression and anxiety
Helps prioritize fears and concerns
Provides an opportunity for recognizing triggers
Allows space for positive encouragement and self-talk
Improves blood pressure levels
Increases feelings of well-being
Improves functioning of the immune system
(Information from The Chopra Center)
Books to Read to Better Understand Grieving
1) The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief By Francis Weller
2) Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief By David Kessler
3) Witnessing Ted: The Journey to Potential Through Grief and Loss By Carol Poteat & Ted Wiard
To explore other websites for practices and other tools, see below.
Internal Family Systems:
During the current COVID pandemic, as well as other stressful times, it's important to stay connected to your purpose. Check out this episode of the podcast Craft of Consulting where I discuss passion, priorities, and self-care; the balance between giving and receiving; how to feel energized; techniques for breath control when dealing with stress; journaling to stay present and reflect on intentions; and so much more.
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